So you’re single and you have just moved to Manchester what do you do? I was in this position myself almost 10 years ago and wish I had made a bit more effort in getting out of my comfort zone and making some new friends in this great city. When you are away from your family and single a new city can be daunting and also lonely (I know I have been there). Now I am not going to focus on the trying to find a lover side as to be honest this is something I am failing miserably at currently but as we should know our BFF’s are worth more to us in the long run. So if you are looking to make friends and get to know what is going on in this city I have tried to set out three pointers below:
Get involved at work
This may seem obvious and to be fair it can depend on your workplace as to how social people are but some of the best friends that I have made in Manchester have been through work. Now ‘getting involved’ is not just heading out with people if they offer when they are going to the pub on Friday as you will only meet a certain few (the most social may not be the best quality). Also some people have other responsibilities so they cannot always get to that Friday drink. I would think about taking a role like a Wellbeing Champion or maybe something like the Employee Committee, yes it might sounds bit lame but you are likely to meet a wider breadth of people. When I first started my most recent role I was quite shy with a lot of the girls in the office and some people called me stand offish (the cheek…they know who they are)!! But now I have been here a year I am really good friends with three! I cannot stress enough just try and get talking, ask people out for lunch, see if they go to the gym and join them. If I had made that effort back then it wouldn’t have taken us so long to be friends.
You can swipe for a best friend and not just a potential romantic partner (be that forever or just for a night). It’s a little odd swiping through pictures and trying to decide from a picture whether you would get on someone rather than being attracted to them because let’s be honest we don’t really look at the persons interests on a dating app. I swiped right on quite a few potential friends but I did not get a match for days. I was starting to get a little offended I mean I think I look pretty friendly but maybe not! Alas after a couple of days I got a match and we have been chatting about festivals (my favourite past time) and we are going to arrange to meet up so a win in my book. When looking through the profiles a lot of people have moved with partners to Manchester for work so might not be single but if they are up for exploring like you then what does it matter! Take caution though (talking from personal experience) on the ‘normal’ Bumble side I have met males that want to be friends but let’s just say this had only been after they had got something else that they were after first. I don’t want to feed a stereotype and I know some people are genuinely looking for love but I can only go from personal experience.
This is something that I have just started to do and I really think it is the thing that will help you immerse yourself in Manchester and hopefully make some new friends on the way. Unlike some other cities in Manchester I have really noticed a comradery between the bloggers in my adopted city. Maybe it’s because we are up North and generally more friendly (I grew up down south so I am allowed to say this) or it’s smaller so it’s easier to get a community feel, I am not quite sure. I have only been blogging a couple of weeks and I have already been to an event, got this great collab and been messaging about meeting some other bloggers for a get together. The thing with blogging and blogging events is it is something that you can do on your own but can be very social. A lot of bloggers will attend and speak to each other online before they go so they feel they know someone once they are there. This is great if you are single as you are making connections online that can then manifest in person. If you are keeping up on social media with other bloggers and following bars / restaurants you will get to know about offers and also events that you might not have done otherwise. I find that blogging gives me a hobby to fill the time that might have been otherwise filled with a partner and also has brought me new friend opportunities and I have learnt about new bars/ events in the city.
So those are my three tips to surviving a new city like Manchester when you are single. Don’t be put off if you struggle to love it to begin with as I can safely say I have been here nearly 10 years now and I wouldn’t want to choose another city to spend my time. The people, the social scene and the general vibe really does challenge any other city in the UK….and maybe even the world.